Getting Unstuck (A 5-Step Process To Deepen Compassion For Oneself)

Are you beyond ready to release the influence those long-held beliefs have in your mind so you can reclaim your power and get what you want in life?


Here’s the simple, yet powerful process I created to guide my coaching clients to move past their limitations and get free of their BS..(Belief System)

1 – Find a quiet space that is free from distractions, and have your journal nearby. Drop into the space of love and reverence for ALL aspects of you. Without judgment or question, make a list of the self-limiting beliefs that have been the excuses to keep you stuck (or possibly given you a false sense of safety). Notice what resistance pops up and take note of that too.

Resistance blocks healing on all levels - physical, mental, emotional and energetically.

2 – Identify one self-limiting belief from your list that you feel compelled to transform right now.

Example: I’m not good enough. (one of my old favorites)

3 – Close your eyes. Place your left hand on your heart center (center of your chest over your breast bone). Take a few slow, long deep breaths. Tune into your body. Where is {“not good enough”} living in your body? Bring your awareness to that part of your body. Choose one word or a short phrase to describe the body sensation.

Example: Ache in my belly. 

4 – If you can reach that part of your body touch in with your right hand, otherwise use your awareness and intention to connect your mind to that area of your body.

5 – Begin to lightly tap your heart center. Say out loud:

“To the one that is not good enough,

I am sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.”

Repeat this powerful healing mantra* until you feel some sort of shift in your body or mind.

Tune into the sensations that arise, without judgment. Simply notice.

You may feel…

..the ache in your belly subside.. a softening in your body.. a deepening of your breath.. a bubbling of emotion.

The sensations could be subtle or powerful.

Whatever arises is welcome.

If you do not feel much the first time that is okay too.

End your process with ten slow, deep breaths. Inhale and exhale through your nose. 

You may want to journal about what came up for you. 

Further integrate this deeply healing process into your body with some gentle movements such as a slow walk in nature or some gentle stretching.

Revisit this process again and again as you move through your list of self-limiting beliefs.

Now over to you –

What self-limiting belief are you ready to transform?

Did you try this process? What came up for you? I’d love to hear.

*This powerful healing mantra is known as Ho’oponopono, the Hawaiian Code for Forgiveness.

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