Befriending the Inner Critic

Through her sobs, my client asked me,

“Will my good enough EVER be good enough?”

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She went on to tell me that she doesn’t trust herself anymore - too many failed attempts, too many lost loves, too much time hating her body. She was tired of seeking advice from her friends and family only to be judged or feel abandoned and misunderstood. 


I keep failing - myself and everyone that matters to me.
— Client

“I keep failing - myself and everyone that matters to me.”

UGH! I know that pain. So many of us do, don’t we? The uncertainty that makes us question ourselves and look to those around us for guidance and direction.


How often do you…

..seek answers, approval and validation outside of yourself? 

…ask your friends what they would do in your situation, regardless of the fact they have never walked a single step in your shoes? 

..consult FaceBook, Google and whomever you’re following on social media - just sure that someone out there knows more about what’s best for you than YOU do? 

…put your faith in the words of another person, and latch onto words that cripple you? 



Perhaps you bought into the beliefs…

I’m not good enough.

…I’m different.

…I don’t belong.

...I’m not worthy or deserving of whatever it is that my heart aches to experience. 



Sigh. Been there. Heard it so many times inside my head growing up and now in the words of the women and men that I work with.


I spent my childhood TERRORIZED by these limiting beliefs. I adopted these messages from people around me. I made them my truth. They defined me, day in and day out. 

These limiting beliefs became my story, my “WHY” - Why I couldn't be who I wanted to be. Why I couldn’t live the life I dreamed of living. 

But if you’ve read this far, you probably know…

There’s a reason Belief System is abbreviated as B.S.!

My mind played outdated beliefs on autopilot until I FINALLY got sick of feeling like crap about myself and took action. I began to do the work to rewrite my story. I trusted myself – more than anyone else did until I transformed my beliefs about myself and what was possible for my life.


I chose freedom over familiar. 

Society may have tried to shut me down and shut my spirit out. But I’ve created (and continue to create) a life that feels successful and fulfilling to me. I CAN be the version of myself that I was born to be. 

I said “no more!” and “yes please” to my heart’s desires.

Freedom. And a life that’s deeply worth living.


How ‘bout you?

Can you relate to having to stay small in your story?

Are you…

…tired of feeling like crap and tolerating mediocracy?

...beyond ready to feel better about yourself and your life, but still feel stuck?


I’m here to support you in getting unstuck. 

Shush That Stinkin’ Thinkin’

We’ve all been there, steeped in conversation, sharing a fear, worry or concern with someone we trust, to have them reply “just think positive!” You think to yourself, “Really? If it was that easy, we’d all be doing it!”

It’s absolutely possible to adopt a healthier, happier, more peaceful outlook on life.

Shift from stinkin’ thinkin’ to mental nurturing.

Unlearn long-held limiting beliefs you’ve been carrying far too long.

It’s time - let them go. Seriously, drop it like it’s hot!

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Your Subconscious Mind

A few useful facts

A field of consciousness that classifies and records every impulse of thought.

At work day and night, voluntarily replaying the messages you’ve stored throughout your life like a tape recorder on a continuous loop.

Responsible for 95-97% of our day-to-day actions.

Makes 500 million commands a second, regulates the exact chemical balance of every cell in our body.

Debugging Your Subconscious

The good news

Emotionalized thoughts are the stickiest, eventually becoming the blueprint from which we operate.

Thoughts that you think over and over become imprinted in the subconscious mind.

Emotions can be learned and unlearned because they are not fixed in the subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and imagined.

Go Within

What is it in me that is causing what I’m experiencing in my external environment?

What is the cost/consequences of listening to my internal, negative dialogue?

How has it robbed me of my courage and confidence?

Make a list of the consequences of allowing your stinkin’ thinkin’ to run on autopilot.

Empty your mind of the persistent echoes of self-limiting beliefs.

Give your subconscious mind permission to release them.

Fuel Mental Nurturing

Form a habit of thinking, feeling and speaking positive emotions.

Fill your mind with kind, loving statements.

I like and approve of myself.

I am enough.

I nurture my body in healthy, loving ways.

My Favorite Tools For Making Shift Happen

Coach’s toolbox

  • Psych-K - an incredible method for reprogramming the subconscious mind.

  • Guided imagery/visualization - SEE yourself and your life as you want it to be. Believe.

  • EFT tapping - powerful technique that can be done anywhere, anytime.

  • Mantras - awesome when combined with mediation and breath work.

  • Meditation - there is great peace found in stillness. Begin with five minutes.

  • Affirmations - best results when combined with EFT or Psych-K.

  • Breath work - fasted way to shift your state of being.

Before You Hit the Cruise Control Button

5-point autosuggestion

1 - Catch yourself stuck in a negative self-talk pattern.

2 - Empty your mind - get those self-limiting beliefs down on paper.

3 - Give your mind permission to release the self-limiting beliefs that arise (refer to the toolbox).

4 - Align your intentions and desires – create a new state of mind, purposefully.

5 - Plant what you desire into your subconscious – speak it out loud until you begin living it.

Watch what happens - it’s a game changer!

Now let your subconscious mind run on autopilot.

If you are ready to reprogram your subconscious mind so your thoughts are more supportive of the life you want to live, let’s chat.